Nelson Tressler- The Art of Goal Setting

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Interview with Nelson Tressler 10_27_2020

 

[00:00:00] Mike: [00:00:00] Hey, everybody. Welcome back to Java chat. We have to me a real special guest. and, and there’s a lot behind the reason why I said that, Nelson Trussler, is somebody that works with a lot of people on goals and, and so on and so forth. But. He’s and he’s been doing it for a long time, like 25 years Nelson. And, 

[00:00:25] and he comes from a background, not too far from my end. I mean, he’s, he’s gone through some rough, rough stuff. I haven’t gone through as much rough stuff as he has, but I, he came up from nothing and essentially I, I did too. It was a lot tougher. Let me put it that way.

[00:00:41] And he’ll explain that here in a minute, but we have Nelson Trussler here with us. Nelson. Thank you for joining us here on Java chat. 

[00:00:49] Nelson Tressler: [00:00:49] Yeah, thanks for having me, Michael, I’m excited to have a conversation here. 

[00:00:53] Mike: [00:00:53] We’re going to, we’re going to dig right in you guys. and, and I’m gonna let Nelson talk for a little bit, give us some background brother, because you came out of, you came out of a dark place.

[00:01:05] I mean like, yeah, not just our rough-in dark. So like we’re we’re where did it all start?  

[00:01:11] Nelson Tressler: [00:01:11] I mean, I 

[00:01:14] have a pretty unique origin story. my mom, my mom got pregnant with me when she was 15 years old and, while she was pregnant with me, her father, who was the local trash collector in a small Pennsylvania town, 6,000 people a while, while.

[00:01:34] She was pregnant with me. He decided to throw a bunch of guns in his car and drive into the town square and open fire on two police officers there. He ended up, he ended up killing one and whooping another, and he was captured and brought to trial. And, during his trial, my mom.

[00:02:00] took the stand he was facing the death penalty. Of course. And, my mom got up and testified to the jury that the reason that her father had just shot and killed that police officer was that that police officer had pulled her over at the age of 15 and raped her. And, she was now pregnant.

[00:02:25] She was now pregnant with his baby who was me. And, that’s, that’s kinda how my, how my life started, and, and, and if you’ve ever lived in a small town, everybody knows your business. Oh  so, hard enough, with your grandfather shooting and killing a police officer, but my life, it didn’t, it didn’t get any easier.

[00:02:54] after that, my mom, she turned 21 years old, started, to go to the bars and, and found a peach of a man who eventually became my stepfather. And 

[00:03:06] Mike: [00:03:06] I get the feeling, the term peach of a man that said tongue in cheek somewhat. 

[00:03:09] Nelson Tressler: [00:03:09] Yeah, absolutely. And, I was at first, I was excited, I never had a father figure in my life.

[00:03:18] but come to find out rather quickly, he was an alcoholic and physically abused me and my mom, Pretty much on a daily basis. And, as you can imagine, that had a huge effect on my, my life and schooling and, and emotional, flash forward to the fourth grade. I remember looking down at my report card and seeing that I had received straight F’s, And by this time I have, three, a younger brothers and, the lifestyle that my mom and stepdad are living is a pretty much my mom would have rather me stay home and help her with the kids then go to school.

[00:04:03] So I think I miss school 60 or so times that fourth grade year. But, after being held back and in fourth grade, they tried to get me the help that I needed. they put me into a special ed. I couldn’t read, couldn’t write, still can’t spell. come to find out, I have dyslexia and that that’s kind of where my, my life started.

[00:04:33] it was, yeah, it, it, it was trying, with everything that, I was dealing with at home, and then you go out into a small town and everybody has labeled you as that, that kid 

[00:04:46] Mike: [00:04:46] that’s gotta be the, that’s gotta be the shit run of the century, bro.  I mean, you’re walking out your door and you already know. You’re facing.  

[00:04:56] Nelson Tressler: [00:04:56] Yeah, it was definitely hard. And, and believe me, I, I struggled my, our whole youth with it and dealing with it. And I, I have, I have a book coming out called the on lucky sperm club. And, from that story, I guess most of you guys can figure out why I came up with that title, but, it kind of.

[00:05:18] It goes through a lot of, those life lessons that I had early on, in life. And, it’s, it’s pretty good reading. It’s it’s pretty entertaining. 

[00:05:30] Mike: [00:05:30]  I’m sure it will be. I’ll be looking for that book. No, no, no doubt.  So how long did this go on before. Then he fell into changing. I mean, yeah, that’s a long time, bro.

[00:05:39] Nelson Tressler: [00:05:39]  When I was 11 years when I was 11 years old, my mom has five kids now and, my, stepfather, was walking home drunk from a bar one night on, a Pennsylvania back road and somebody else was driving home drunk from that bar. And, Ended up hitting and killing him. And, it was at this time that my mom, she had dropped out of school in the eighth grade, she has five kids, she has no education, no skills, out outside of the home, never had worked outside of the home.

[00:06:22] And as bad as her life was as bad as things were with my stepfather, here, she was a young mother of five with, no education, no income and worst of all, no hope. And it was at this time that she decided that she was going to take her own life. And fortunately though, she was not successful, but that’s what it was at that time, at this time, she was put into a hospital to recover.

[00:06:55] And the gathering and that it was at that time that my family got split up. I went to go live with my grandmother. Who’s the wife of my grandfather who shot and killed the police officer. 

[00:07:08] Mike: [00:07:08] Did you know by this time that that’s what happened? I mean, did or did grandma tell you, I mean, that had to been a shock too. 

[00:07:15] Nelson Tressler: [00:07:15] no, no, no, no. I was definitely, definitely aware of, what my grandfather had done. I mean, I dealt with those consequences every day of my life. And, and my sister went to go live with my aunt and then my three brothers went to go live with my stepfather’s family. But it was at this time when my mom did get out of the hospital, that she decided she couldn’t care for all of us.

[00:07:40] So our family was split up. She ended up taking back my three brothers and my youngest sister, who was six months at the time, went to live with me. And then I went to go live with my grandmother, who is the mother of 15 kids. 

[00:07:58] Mike: [00:07:58] Whoa, wow. Family legacy. That’s pretty cool actually.  

[00:08:01] Nelson Tressler: [00:08:01] And for the first time in my life, as stable as life could be at my Grams, there’s probably 10 people living there.

[00:08:10] Some other cousins that were living there for various reasons, a few of her kids were still there, but for the first time in my life, I had a stable, how sin that, there were things like you took a, you took a bath every night and I, I wasn’t tasked with, taking care of kids and waking up and helping, feed babies in the middle of the night and change diapers and 

[00:08:35] and even though education was never a huge deal, in my family, it was, it was expected that you were going to go, going to go to school. And so every day, I had to go to school. And for the first time, I started to realize that, I wasn’t, I wasn’t stupid, I could do this, as I started to build up some momentum and actually.

[00:08:59] Paid attention. And then 

[00:09:01] Mike: [00:09:01] you just want some help, dude. I mean, dyslexia is not a, it’s a it’s a slow down. It’s not a stop.

[00:09:05] Nelson Tressler: [00:09:05] Absolutely. 

[00:09:07] Mike: [00:09:07] I mean, I got, I got cousins and friends that had dyslexia and they’re doing very well today and they still, they still deal with it. I mean, but they’re. They’re killing it and their business, it’s just, I think a lot of people misunderstand that these aren’t, when people say welder disabilities.

[00:09:23] That doesn’t mean they’re not able to learn. That just means they’re a little hampered or they’re a little slowed and all you gotta do is give them the right tools and the right and the right mindset to get themselves going. And they’ll figure it out.

[00:09:34] Nelson Tressler: [00:09:34] Yeah, I love how you said, it’s a slow down, not a stop.

[00:09:39] It’s not a stop. 

[00:09:40] Mike: [00:09:40] It’s never going to, the stop comes from the, an, and this is this, you and I could probably run down this road all day. The stop comes internally when we ourselves think, well, shit, I can’t do it. That’s not real. 

[00:09:48] Nelson Tressler: [00:09:48] Yep. It’s not real.  Well,  w one day I went to school, to continue my story and kind of where it changed was I lived close to Penn state university.

[00:10:02] And when I was in the seventh grade, we had an assembly. The counselor from Penn state came down and was talking about how, what you needed to do to get into college and, kind of bells and whistles were going off in my head at this time, I was reflecting upon my life a lot at this time and pretty much realizing that my life sucked and, to have right in the middle of a car.

[00:10:33] And, I thought to myself, if I could graduate college, I could change things now, whenever you set a goal and, and, all those voices in the back of your head, start talking to you and telling you why you can’t do it, in my, in my Grant’s family of 15 children, only two had ever graduated high school, none had ever attended a college.

[00:10:57] And none of my cousins, at this time I had 50 or 75 cousins. None of them had ever attended a university. And here I said, with dyslexia, I can’t read, I can’t write, can’t spell. And , all these voices keep telling me like, what in the world are you thinking, going to college? You’re going to be lucky to graduate high school, but, I told myself, I don’t want this life for me.

[00:11:26] I don’t want it for my eventual family. And I really felt like this would help me to, live a life where I didn’t have to worry about no food in the refrigerator. Exactly. And all of those things. So the next day I started to focus on school and started to pay attention and do my best, and actually started doing homework and notes, those types of things.

[00:11:51] And, each day, got a little bit better. And, and, I had one thing going for me. I, I was a pretty good athlete and, That hell is 

[00:12:02] Mike: [00:12:02] a little as a little, that, that I would consider a little bit of a release for all the stress and frustration that you’ve been dealing with. So I’m sure that must have helped some.

[00:12:09] Nelson Tressler: [00:12:09] Yeah, no, absolutely. It helped. It helped a ton. And so I, by the time I was out of my 10th, 10th grade at the end of the year, and when you’re in special ed, they give you this test every year to kind of see how you’ve progressed and, After three years of, doing my best and trying my best, I took that test.

[00:12:30] And at the end of 10th grade, I was able to pass my way out of all of the special ed classes. And, started taking some college prep, but. Like I said, I still wasn’t by no means a straight A student, I was, I was busting out CS and BS and, and trying my hardest to even get there.

[00:12:50] But with, with, sports, I had one college that wanted me to come and play football for them. st. Francis university in Pennsylvania. Small, small school, but, but, because of that, I was able to, get into college, harp probably couldn’t have done it with the grades that I had.

[00:13:17] but I became that first person in my family to go to college. 

[00:13:23] Mike: [00:13:23] That’s so let me, let me. For those of you that are watching and listening to all this. And , this is probably a lot of stuff swirling in your heads, but check it out. You got somebody here who comes from what would normally be a death sentence, in my opinion, for living a good life, a lot of people never get out of what you went through.

[00:13:46] A lot of people, especially because of the small town thing. I come from an Island and you run into the same person two or three times a day, I’m now in Las Vegas and it’s like, I might see somebody once a week, usually different. it’s still a small one horse town. Don’t get me wrong, but, 

[00:14:05] Nelson Tressler: [00:14:05] and I’ve never seen you, Michael.

[00:14:07] So it’s not that small. 

[00:14:10] Mike: [00:14:10] We’ll have to change that. Damn. I didn’t know you were here. Okay. We’ll have to, yeah, we’ll definitely need to get together. W, yeah, there’ve been a couple of other guests that also are here in Las Vegas. Had an idea, the idea of coming away from something that’s that dark that’s that messed up utterly.

[00:14:27] I mean, alcoholism is alcoholism and domestic abuse. It’s in my opinion, it’s all shit. It shouldn’t be, but it happens the, the stress and the, and the, the, the hardships that the children face. And a lot of times the lack of help and support. That they, that they receive it’s mind numbing. I’m very thankful that like, even in our, in our community here, we got things like project one 50 for the homeless kids that are, to keep them somewhat uplifted with what they’re dealing with because they go to school, but they go, they go, they go where after school, they don’t go home.

[00:15:02] They 

[00:15:02] Nelson Tressler: [00:15:02] don’t have one.  And 

[00:15:04] Mike: [00:15:04] these are the kinds of things that are I’m so glad are now happening because back when we were kids, you and me. But that stuff didn’t exist. I mean, what was the salvation army? That’s just the homeless shelter. They didn’t really have outreach programs. So you come out of this dark space, step into a place that nobody in your family has really ever been yours in particular.

[00:15:24] And you’re now in college. Which I totally love it. Cause I’ve always, I’ve always used this and people are like, well, I’m struggling in college. I said, okay. So let me ask you a question. The guy that graduates from the doctorate program with an a, what do they call him? Doctor. Okay. And the guy that gets the DEET, what do they call him?

[00:15:42] Nelson Tressler: [00:15:42] Doctor. 

[00:15:44] Mike: [00:15:44] And, and I L and they look at me and they go,  but, but, but my cousin, I said, listen, if you’re a physician and you got A’s and you sound like a quack, I’m not coming to you. If you got DS and you sound like, your shit, you’re working on me.  That’s what matters. So, okay. Fast forward.

[00:15:58] We’re we’re in college. We graduated from college. 

[00:16:02] Nelson Tressler: [00:16:02] Yeah, no, no, the story continues 

[00:16:05] Mike: [00:16:05] and, okay. Okay. Well, let’s, let’s, let’s finish that up because I have a couple of questions right after all of that’s done. 

[00:16:10] Nelson Tressler: [00:16:10] Sure. I mean, just like any goal, I mean, you, you always hit these hurdles that you have to overcome and absolutely.

[00:16:17] so, at this time I was living with my grandma, Gram, is on social security at the time.  $4,800 a year, 10, 10 people in her house. so I got to college and even though I got, a little bit of a, I got all the Pell grants and of course I qualified for everything, one of one, a couple of scholarships out of high school.

[00:16:44] But after that first semester, I owed a thousand dollars and I had, I had worked, and, and saved some money. So I was able to come up with that thousand dollars. But after the second semester I owed another $3,500.  

[00:17:00] Mike: [00:17:00] It just gets worse as you go on. 

[00:17:02] Nelson Tressler: [00:17:02] There was no way I wasn’t going to be able to afford to go to school.

[00:17:07] And, it was at this time, like, like with any other goal is, okay. It didn’t work out. How can I be resourceful and figure out a way? So, one of my buddies was going into the air force and told me about the GI bill and the air force kind of checked all the boxes for me because one, it was going to pay for my school too.

[00:17:29] It was going to get me out of this town where I had so much baggage. And, so I joined the air force and, long story short, 12 years. For schools, after set, setting that goal, I became the first person in my family to graduate college. 

[00:17:50] Mike: [00:17:50] So two things, one frigging. Awesome. Cause he made it.

[00:17:57] let me back that up. First thing, thank you for your service. That’s huge too. Congratulations. You did it somewhere in there. A switch came on. That started having you focus on goal setting, 

[00:18:14] Nelson Tressler: [00:18:14] what the switch happened when, when, when that switch really happened was after I graduated college, I realized  to myself,w, when you’re, when you’re in my situation, and you’re looking out into this world and you have all this baggage, You think everyone else is different than you, everybody else is better than you, everybody else is in a better situation than you.

[00:18:37] And you have all this negative self-talk. But when I was able to graduate college, That’s when I said, what, if somebody like me, and you’ve heard my story of somebody in that situation could be come the first person in his family to graduate college and actually do it. What else could I do with goals and personal development?

[00:18:59] And I became obsessed with goals and personal development, every program that I could get my hands on in a Ford and every audio book and all of that stuff for the, for the past 20 years. I graduated college from UNLV in the year 2000. And here we are in 2020. So it’s been two decades since, since I’ve become obsessed with that.

[00:19:25] And I’ve used goals to create a life. I couldn’t have. Even imagine, 20 years ago, 

[00:19:33] Mike: [00:19:33] goodness, this is a good segue for our next section. Cause we’re going to talk about all of that. And what then, what, what motivates, what inspires you? So guys, we’re going to take a short 30 second break and we’ll be right back after we have, a moment from our sponsor.

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[00:19:46]  Mike: And we’re back here at Java check coffee with Mike here, sitting with Nelson Tressler, and we were just kind of chuckling back and forth. Cause I had no idea he was here. And, in Las Vegas. So we’re going to have to grab coffee sometime when we can meet somewhere in between. Cause he’s on the other side of the world from me and it’s like, we’re going to need, we’re going to need a mass transit here just from the North side of the city.

[00:20:11] So we, we, we were talking about before, you’re starting to talk about how you, started moving through learning goals, understanding and the, and the triggers hit right when, right after college, And you started studying, you started getting into this section, usually talks about what are the things that motivate and inspire you.

[00:20:28] I do want some of that, but I want to dig into how you learned to put together the goals, the accountability, and all this kind of stuff. Because everybody hears about the smart system. Everybody. Well, not everybody, a good portion of people that understand goals know about the smart system and yet there’s the accountability side.

[00:20:46] And then there’s the motivational side and the inspirational side, because there’s, there’s still that voice in the back one. Damn that goal’s kind of tough, dude. I,  I don’t know if we can make 

[00:20:55] that. You’re, you’re always going to deal with that. So firstly, who are some of the people that you started following and learning from and, and, books you’ve read and things that got you to like, Oh shit, this is cool.

[00:21:08] Nelson Tressler: [00:21:08] Well, yeah, just about every book. but , of course, Tony, Tony Robbins was huge. Brian Tracy was, Brian Moran from the 12 week year  was,  

[00:21:24] Chet Holmes, I was in sales, so I listened to a lot of Chet Holmes, Ty Ackert 

[00:21:32] Mike: [00:21:32] you got, you got all the old schoolers, bro. In the first class. 

[00:21:37] Nelson Tressler: [00:21:37] And  what, now I love, geez. Of course I knew I was going to the school of greatness. how, how,  how, how, Lewis Howes Lewis.  And, 

[00:21:50] Mike: [00:21:50] so cool dude, by the way we had, before he ever got famous, he and I was talking back and forth and I had no idea who the guy was, but he had such a, he had such a cool demeanor about himself in such a humble.

[00:22:02] It’s just, he was just a humble dude. And now look at them guys.

[00:22:06] Nelson Tressler: [00:22:06] No, yeah, he’s, he’s definitely taken off, but I love anything. I mean, after I’ve written this book and started this new company, I’ve, I’ve. Been on quite a few podcasts and I love podcasts, I’ve listened. I listened to them sporadically.

[00:22:25] I was more of a book guy and was always listening to books. And by the way, one of the, one of the biggest things that I can, trace back, my successes. Listen to audiobooks in your car or podcasts or something like that. Forget the radio, forget, sports and, and talk radio. Get in there, a rolling university I’ve learned so much and, and pride my mind for so many great ideas and actions.

[00:22:57] So if there’s one thing you take away from this, never listen to music or talk radio again, listen to that podcast and things that are going on. So yeah, I’ve listened to all of those guys and started going to conferences and things like that, but just starting new year’s day is my favorite holiday.

[00:23:22]  back then I couldn’t wait for whatever program, Darren Hardy, Oh  okay, the compound effect that, that book’s incredible too. But he had a great gold program that I use for quite a few years and, New Year’s day, everybody in my family knew don’t mess with dad today.

[00:23:44] I literally spent five or six hours out there doing my goals and reviewing them and reviewing what worked, what didn’t work, planning out the entire year. and, and I’ve done that for 20 years. 

[00:23:59] Mike: [00:23:59] is this, you do this, like, it’s a, it’s a, it’s an absolute whole day thing. It takes you how many hours to go through this?

 

[00:24:05] Nelson Tressler: [00:24:05] No, what happened was when I was doing that, it was a four to six hour event. And, over the past 20 years or so I’ve learned from all, all these guys that I talked about, but I started to become known as the goal guy in the group and, with all my friends and acquaintances and, I love talking about it.

[00:24:31] I mean, it’s that one thing that if somebody talks about a goal or, talks about something like that, I chime up and run across the room and, and force myself in that conversation just because I love to talk about it. And I know what. I know what power goals are and, and how different, it, one goal, just one goal can, can be in your life.

[00:24:52] I mean, I’m here talking to you because I set that first goal of being that first person to graduate college and then everything else kind of came from that. So, but I started working with people, just, they, they would come up to me and say, yeah, I’d give talks and things like that on goals.

[00:25:11] They’d come up to me and say, man,  what. I really need to, to work on my goals. And would you sit down with me and be like, yeah, absolutely. I mean, I loved it and I would sit down with these people and these are good, good, hardworking, successful people, doctors and lawyers and. Business owners and just great guys.

[00:25:33] And I would sit down with them. I’d spend two, three hours with them, helping them write their goals and how, how to write a goal and how to think about it and how to set milestones and how to break that big goal down into small chunks. And I would do all that and I’d be pumped up and fired up for them and then we’d leave and they’d be fired up.

[00:25:52] And then I’d see them, two, three weeks later I’m like, Hey, how are the goals coming in, man? And he’s like, Oh, what? I need to get back on that and be like,

[00:26:06] it’d be like a kick in the gut. And that happened to me several times and, and I became frustrated, but then what I, then one day I was like,  what, why don’t we, why don’t we be accountability partners? And, I started being accountability partners with, one of these guy is, and the change was dramatic.

[00:26:31] And the funny thing was here. I am feeling like I’m a goal expert. What I realized was. I was, I was helping him stay accountable, but he was also helping me. And my goal fulfillment went through the roof because of that accountability. And I started to be accountability partners for,w, three, four people.

[00:26:54] And then what I started to realize was Jesus has taken up a lot of my time, what I can accomplish, and hike one day here in Vegas. And , that aha moment. Popped into my head is like, what? You need to start a group with all these people who want to fulfill their goals and help each other, be, be accountable to what they were going to say or what they were going to do.

[00:27:21] And so I’m like, that’s absolutely what I want to do. So I went around to a dozen other people who had asked me about goals and I’m like, I’m starting this group and it was free. And, wasn’t charging it wasn’t charging any money. I just wanted to help these people because again, I love goals. I know the power of it.

[00:27:41] So we started this group. There was 12 of us and we would have a meeting a month and talk about goals and talk about experts that everybody had. And it was just a great group of guys. And then we would rotate part partners every month and, when I really knew I was onto something, I would, I would bump into a, one of the wives of the people in the group, at church or at the store or whatever.

[00:28:12] And they’d come up to me and they’d say, Nelson, you can never. And this group,, great guy, and he’s thoughtful and he’s working out and, and, he’s cleaning up. I mean, he is, he’s doing everything better, never stop this group. And, when I really knew I was onto something.

[00:28:34] Every wife who was with her husband was in this group. They started their own goal group. Awesome. All what a huge change it was. And like I said, these were, these were successful guys. I mean, we, we had surgeons and lawyers and construction workers and business owners, so it was a very. Why a variety of 

[00:28:59] Mike: [00:28:59] you’re talking about guys that are already familiar with attaining goals, they just wanted to see how they could step it up.

[00:29:04] And that it sounds like this group has really not, not just, just as a, as an aside, I was also part of an accountability group. There was a friend of mine who wanted to start, a specific almost mastermind accountability group. And we tried it for four. I think about two or three months. And unfortunately, because he was constantly traveling, it made it hard for him to direct what was going on.

[00:29:29] Concept was understood. The accountability part wasn’t adhere to well enough and there wasn’t a system in place then I, and I think people forget that if you’re going to do this, like a group. That’s a, that’s a system it’s it’s. And then within that system, there’s probably more to make sure that everybody checks in at a certain point at a certain, and then whatever, what if you don’t hit it?

[00:29:49] What do we do? How do we make this? How do we make this attainable, all that kind of stuff.  

[00:29:54] Nelson Tressler: [00:29:54] And, and I mean, with that, I mean, you, you hit on a lot of, things that we struggled with too is, we were just people, in a group, there was, there was no real formal,  the format, right?

[00:30:10] I mean, it was kind of my program and I was using other people’s pieces of other people’s programs that I found that worked and, cutting out things that didn’t work, but, I can monetize. Things in my brain. And I’m like, what? You don’t know how many people would benefit from this type of program.

[00:30:30] And I started to work on putting together a program of the things that I knew worked, and would help people and, I started I’m like, we always, we always would in this group would say, man, it would be great if we had this, it would be great. If we could all talk to each other. It would be great if we had an app that would help us do this and see when.

[00:30:53] So, I have started, I’ve started over 10 businesses, here in LA and Las Vegas. And, I was fortunate enough to sell one of the chains that I started. Nice. And that at that time it was like, okay, what are you going to do with the rest of your life? I mean, you’re young, that retirement is not for me.

[00:31:16] No, I don’t think it’s for any of us.  We’re 

[00:31:19] Mike: [00:31:19] never going to quit. 

[00:31:20] Nelson Tressler: [00:31:20] I swear. And it was that question. What would you do, if, if money didn’t matter and yeah, and I wanted to start a business that just changed people’s lives through. Personal development. And so I started designing an app and, and that app was, it was called six months to success.

[00:31:44] Nice. And it had people meeting in person in groups like we did and it, and designed it too? Whenever you have a success partner, we call them success partners. Whenever they would check off their to-do list or their morning ritual or their evening ritual, you as their partner would see that. And then there was a goal guide over, over them that actually helped them because just like you said, We don’t have, we don’t have a knowledge problem.

[00:32:15] We know what we need to do. We have an execution problem. We just don’t do what we know we need to do when we need to do it. And these success partners in this goal guide would help people in the group stay focused. And if they. They would see that, hey, this guy didn’t check in on the app today. He didn’t do it is morning ritual and plan his day or his evening ritual, reflecting back on what he did so they could just send them a friendly message because you’re.

[00:32:43] Accountability gets such a bad rap because we all envision that football coach or whatever, screaming at us because we didn’t do what we were supposed to do. That’s not what accountability is. Accountability is you being accountable to yourself to do the things that you said you were going to do.

[00:33:01] Mike: [00:33:01] You bring up a good point on that being, being accountable to yourself, to your goals and to others. And there’s, there’s a huge. I think there’s a huge, like you, you just started describing the misnomer of what accountability can you, can you dig into that a little bit more? I mean, I mean, we’re talking about moving the needle, not just for us, but essentially for our community and anybody else that we can affect.

[00:33:27] Nelson Tressler: [00:33:27] Oh, I mean, that, that, that’s why I love goals so much. I mean, goal goals are not just like here and now goals change generations. I mean, look at me. I mean, you all have just heard my story. As I said here, 20 years after it’s achieving that first goal, my life couldn’t be any more different. I mean, I’ve, I’ve been married to my best friend.

[00:33:49] We’re about to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary, the anniversary. Thank you. I I’ve raised three, we’ve raised three. I better say we’re there, because if I say where’s the accountability, we’ve raised three awesome young men who are on their way to be in productive, but that those goals will change the generations that follow you because of what you’ve done.

[00:34:16] And that, that’s why I love goals so much. And , the whole purpose of what I want to do is. I want to change the world, but I want to change the world. One person in one goal at a time. And the way that I wanna change the world is by changing the individual’s world, the way that that one goal changed my world.

[00:34:35] And, So th that’s kind of what, what we want to do. but yeah, so just as six months to success was picking up steam and, was working this whole thing with, COVID hit and

[00:34:54] Mike: [00:34:54] With the joy of COVID.  

[00:34:56] Nelson Tressler: [00:34:56] And you were no longer able to meet with groups and again, goals do this and people need to realize that.

[00:35:03]  what there’s these hurdles, but you’ve got to figure out a way to get past them because, there’s 

[00:35:11] Mike: [00:35:11] all that just lends over to priorities. What’s your real priority? I mean, if you, if you really want it, you’re going to do whatever it takes. I mean, I had a coach once in fact, we call him coach.

[00:35:20] I had a coach one time that says I will do whatever I will do, or I will accomplish that goal at all costs. Not at any cost. At all costs. And when he said that I literally stopped for a second, I was like, Oh my gosh, I need to go reassess what I’m doing, because I had never heard of it, heard it like that.

[00:35:40] When you, when you understand the context of what those two words actually mean. I, at any cost means you’re going to do anything and it could get you in trouble, but at all costs, it means you’re going to take every step possible and you’re going to find every step possible is a huge difference.

[00:35:55] Any cost puts fear in your head, the all costs makes you realize, Oh shit, there’s a lot more to do here. 

[00:36:00] Nelson Tressler: [00:36:00] Isn’t there. And, and that’s one of our philosophies, we have 15 philosophies that we run by, but once you set a goal and, and, and this, this program, It, it, it’s not only just, a glorified task list.

[00:36:20] There it’s a whole program. It’s a whole mindset. I mean, as you, as, priming your mind and getting your mind and, and, and learning these strategies and techniques is just as important as, doing things for your goals, because without the right mindset, you’re never going to follow through, without having that strong, why, and realizing why you should set a goal and how to write a goal and how to work on that goal every single day.

[00:36:49] So this it’s a full-blown program, but back to COVID, we, we were not able to meet within groups anymore.  And so, During that lockdown, I realized what we need to pivot. And because my goal wasn’t to have a company that met in groups specifically to do that. My comp, my vision for this company was to help people achieve their goals.

[00:37:19] And so I went to work on a new app and the program within six months to success was called. I got smarter and you kind of referenced smart goals and, Even though smart goals have been out there for a long time and a lot of people use them and, and they definitely help you write a great goal. They’re still 92% of New Year’s resolutions are failing.

[00:37:42] So, you can, you can write a good goal and that’s a good start, but, that’s not the end of the journey when it comes to goals. So I, in our program, Added, all the missing ingredients that I’ve realized over the last 20 years of, of goal fulfillment and kind of work to patch all those holes.

[00:38:01] So our program’s called, I got smarter. That’s the new app that’s out now. 

[00:38:06] Mike: [00:38:06] You’ll get it. You’ll get a kick out of this. I stopped making new year’s resolutions 

[00:38:11] Nelson Tressler: [00:38:11] and, and a lot of people have.  And 

[00:38:13] Mike: [00:38:13] not, not because I knew I wouldn’t con it was because it was the first off. Why am only reserving that one day?

[00:38:20] Why am I not readjusting? Why am I not looking at my goals daily to see if I’m still on the right path? Why am I sold beholden to one thing which kind of goes into the thing about defining success? Because no one’s definition is obviously it’s never the same. Some people are just happy staying at home.

[00:38:38] we, we’ve got people that are, that are this new generation that are intending to make a lot of money being a gamer and streaming on Twitch, which I’m still not sure. I still don’t get that, but there are people out there making a living on Twitch, and, and, and this is their goal. They want to be the best Twitch streamer on Twitch.

[00:38:57] And I’m thinking, okay, I’m not entirely sure how you’re contributing to the community, but, and then, and then, and then I start watching some of these guys. They are the most non-toxic and toxic blocking people on the planet, on their streams. And they literally come back out in other videos later and go, I catch a toxic person on there.

[00:39:17] You’re gone. I’m blocking you. Here’s, here’s what this community is about. And then they go through all of the values, the very things that we believe in as valuable, as value based people. And I look at that, I’m like, what you do deserve the money that you’re making. Screw it, keep going. 

[00:39:32] Nelson Tressler: [00:39:32] Money that you make. You’re helping, as long as it’s, as long as it’s honest, I mean, I think it was the executor who said, you can have everything you want in this life, as long as you’re willing to help people. Yeah, get what they want. And so anybody who’s out there doing that, I mean, there’s people who are watching notes guys on Twitch.

[00:39:54] And, I have a friend that does that. somebody who works for us, has started that. And they’re not huge, but they love it. And that’s what they do. And I’m like, hey, if people are out there and they are gaining value by watching you play a game and they enjoy it, more power to you. So, I mean, that’s one of the things in our program.

[00:40:15] We don’t judge what your goals are, as long as they’re ethical. I mean, we’re not going to help you do anything that’s ethical, but they’re your goals? 

[00:40:24] Mike: [00:40:24] No robbing banks. Huh? Okay.  

[00:40:26] Nelson Tressler: [00:40:26] All you won’t help you do that, but  I mean, as long as they’re your goals and you have that strong, why? I mean, that’s one of the most important things when you do set a goal.

[00:40:37] That it has to be your goal. It can’t be the world’s goal. It can’t be your spouse’s goal. It can’t be your kid’s goal or your, or your parent’s goals have to be your goals or the chances are you’re going to fail because that why is not strong enough.  

[00:40:50] Mike: [00:40:50] You talked, you were going to take another break here for another 30 seconds, but when we come back, we’re going to talk more about the program and.

[00:40:58] What you’re doing and where you see your future, and kind of talk a little bit about your goals over the next five years, et cetera, et cetera. So guys, we’re going to take another 30 second break and we will be right back.


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 And we’re back here on Java chat with Nelson Tressler. We were talking a little bit about, Goal setting.

[00:41:17] I, I really, I think you should come back so we can dig further into it and understand your goal setting process. cause I think it would be extremely valuable to anybody. you were talking about, the redesign of your app. You’ve now got the program inside it called I got smarter. 

[00:41:32] Nelson Tressler: [00:41:32] Is that correct?

[00:41:34] Mike: [00:41:34] Okay. Yep. And the, the idea behind that, again, to recap for those who are just jumping in and if you are, was that the original app was to kind of create. a meetup kind of scenario where people could sit down and actually meet face to face. Obviously we had the lockdown that happened.

[00:41:51] There had to be a pivot. He made the pivot. So to describe them, I got smarter. Is that now something where it’s a virtual meeting or what, how does that work? 

[00:42:00] Nelson Tressler: [00:42:00] Yeah, so right now I got smarter as an app. and we’re just putting the final touches on it. It it’s, it’s already out on the, app store and, we, we are giving away 30 free days, just, just to try it out and make sure, but it’s a full blown program that will run you through, our philosophies, the program, but, kind of the, the nuts and bolts of it is that you can actually still invite, a success partner to join you.

[00:42:32] Linked to you through the app. So, maybe Michael me and you would be partners. And every day we start with a morning ritual. I mean, there’s so much information out there about how much more productive you are when you plan your day. And we came up with this morning ritual that takes.

[00:42:52] Only five to 10 minutes and it just makes you so much more productive, but you start with gratitude. I mean, that’s one of the things that I just love is it. And what I’ve found is if you’re not grateful for what you have now, chances are, you’re not going to be grateful for what you’re going to have.

[00:43:09] So we teach that attitude of gratitude and every day, We have you thinking about that every day we’re teaching the philosophies and the strategies of I got smarter, what’s built into the program. So you’re getting that kind of juice of what the program’s all about. There’s a positive quote in there every single day.

[00:43:30] And then you go through, you review your goals. Every day you look at them, you can see why there. Air. One of the fun things with our program is, every goal is associated with a positive reward. If you hit your goal, you’re going to reward yourself, but it’s also associated with a negative consequence.

[00:43:52] And so if you don’t hit that goal, you could, you’re going to follow through with that negative consequence and, maybe that’s a. Taking off your shirt and singing on YouTube and posting it. If you don’t, something much worse 

[00:44:07] Mike: [00:44:07] since we live here in Las Vegas, but that’s, 

[00:44:09] Nelson Tressler: [00:44:09] I’m going to leave that one alone if you’re a male.

[00:44:17] So I mean, that, that kind of makes it fun. And , all of us tend to either run towards a pleasure or run away from pain. So we’ve kind of touched that, but every goal is associated with that. And we, we talked about. New year’s resolutions and the success rate of those, what was, we’ve done it.

[00:44:35] I got smarter as we’ve broken all of our goals down to 30 day sprints. Perfect. And that is something that your mind can wrap around. you can really figure out every single day counts when it comes to 30 days. And that’s not to say you can’t have these huge big goals. You absolutely can. And should, 

[00:44:55] but what we’ve done in our program is teach you how to break that down. What can I do in the next 30 days that will get me closer to this goal? And you kind of can see like, okay, every day counts and your mind can wrap yourself around. What’s going to happen 30 days from now, as opposed to, if you have this huge goal, that’s five years away, you don’t feel that urgency to really work hard.

[00:45:21] Life changes. And it’s like, ah, what, I’ll do it Monday. Or, I’ll start that at the beginning of the month. And one of the things we teach at, I got smarter as time is our greatest resource. and every day should, should be used to its fullest because we never know, we never know if our situation’s changed or if we’re even going to be on this earth, in, in a day.

[00:45:45] So we teach that concept. and then, we do a, to do every day for our goals.  And, that gives you that hyper-focus on, what can I do today to accomplish that goal? And so many people, especially, when they get to midlife, they kind of look back on their life and they’re like, crap, where’d it go? So not where I wanted to be. And a lot of that. Reason for that is that they didn’t live that life with purpose. And they didn’t work on their goals that were going to make the biggest difference. They were busy. They were, they were busy their whole entire life, but they didn’t work on those things that meant the most to them.

[00:46:35] And I got smarter, has you doing that every single day, you’re working on accomplishing those goals and, and we only work on three goals at a time. I know, people have tons of goals out there, but again, what I’ve found over my 25 years of goal fulfillment is if you get more than three goals, your mind just kind of, Goes haywire.

[00:46:57] And then you end up accomplishing none of them. So we focus on three goals. 

[00:47:03] Mike: [00:47:03] I got five. I need to cut that Tucker down again, 

[00:47:06] Nelson Tressler: [00:47:06] and you can still have those five goals and, and probably still even work on some of those, but we’re, hyper-focused on the three goals. For that, for that 30 days, 

[00:47:17] Mike: [00:47:17] it makes, it makes sense though.

[00:47:17] I mean, you’re talking about being able, you said it, the hyper-focus when you have absolute focus after one thing, all of a sudden it’s, it makes more sense. It just, it’s easier to, it’s easier to keep track of as well. You, you stay a little more motivated. 

[00:47:33] Nelson Tressler: [00:47:33] And so that, that part of the app that morning ritual that actually populates your entire day for you as you’re going through that morning ritual.

[00:47:43] and then every, every month we work on, Forming a new positive habit. And so that populates your calendar for you. And so throughout the day, you’re looking at your calendar and you’re ensuring that you’re checking off all the things that you said you were going to do. And then every night we have what we call our evening ritual, and that’s a lot of reflection on how did you do today?

[00:48:09] And, Did you accomplish all the things that were on your list and, and gratitude, and, and if you have you’re a success partner, what did you do to help your success partner? Were you a good success partner? Were you helping fulfill your goals? And you’re, you’re really living life with purpose when you follow this app and this program.

[00:48:30] And, that makes, that makes absolutely all the difference. I mean, I think so many of us go throughout life, just on autopilot and we’re just kind of following, following the signs. And I kind of talk about that in my book is this like, you get in your car and the next thing , you’re, you’re at work and you have no idea how you got there.

[00:48:52] Exactly and magnify that over a decade. And a lot of people are ending up, here we are starting a new decade, think back to 2010 and what you wanted to accomplish and where you wanted to be. And , here you are 10 years later and chances are, you’re like, I don’t even know where the decade won it, but.

[00:49:15] You follow this program. And when you work on your goals, you’re living life with purpose and you absolutely are accomplishing the things you need to accomplish. 

[00:49:23] Mike: [00:49:23] Sweet. So what’s your next biggest goal in the next five years? 

[00:49:27] Nelson Tressler: [00:49:27] What this  business,w, I was a commercial broker for, for 20 years.

[00:49:34] I set goals in that. I became the top producer nationwide, and, kind of climbed, climbed that mountain, like I said, I started a chain of a children’s daycares here in Las Vegas was able to sell those started a chain of pet resorts here and in Phoenix was able to sell that.

[00:49:57] And now I’m to the point where I wanna work. I wanna help people who are struggling in life. I know where I came from. I know that it’s possible and I know how to do it. And, and through this, I got smarter. I know people can do it when I, when I look at people and I see them living below their abilities.

[00:50:24] It literally breaks my heart because I know, I know where I could be and I don’t give fear much place in my life. But the one thing that scares me to death is if I didn’t fulfill that first goal of becoming that first person in my family to graduate college, I would have forfeited the life that I’m living right now.

[00:50:45] And all my goodness. That scares me to death. I wanna, I wanna spend the rest of my life, helping people achieve their life’s biggest goals 

[00:50:58] and living better, more productive lives so that when they get to the end of their life, they don’t look back and say where’d all the time go? I want them to live that fulfilling life and be on their death bed and say,  what? I gave it a go and, and, I 

[00:51:15] wouldn’t, wouldn’t trade it for the world and this program I got smarter and, goals will absolutely help people, live that more productive life. And, and that’s what I want to do with the rest of my life is, change.

[00:51:30] The world one person and one goal at a time by changing that one person’s world.  

[00:51:37] Mike: [00:51:37] That’s going to be, that’s going to be huge. Let’s talk about the book for a quick second, because we’re almost out of time here. I want to, I want to get into that. you called it the, the CEO of the unlucky. What’s it called?

[00:51:47] Nelson Tressler: [00:51:47] The unlucky sperm club.

[00:51:50] Mike: [00:51:50] Unlucky sperm club. Thank you.

[00:51:52] Nelson Tressler: [00:51:52]  You’re you’re not a victim of your circumstance, but a product of your choices and  I’m so excited about this book. 

[00:51:59] Mike: [00:51:59] Interesting, interesting dude. That subtitle is like, okay. So I was like, I’m about to take a little whip in here.  

[00:52:08] Nelson Tressler: [00:52:08] I’ve been working on this book forever 

[00:52:09] and I mean, I have dyslexia. So, you, you 

[00:52:14] think about, I’m never going to write a book. I can barely spell, but I, again, I wanted to write this book one to tell my story and to, to, to prove to myself that I can do it, regardless of what my circumstances are.  But it talks a lot about the lessons that I learned growing up in that small town, under the circumstances that I was born into.

[00:52:36] But it also talks about the businesses that I’ve started here in Las Vegas and the trials that I went through, like I said, I was in commercial real estate, during the 2008 crash. And, 

[00:52:51] Mike: [00:52:51] when was that fun? 

[00:52:53] Nelson Tressler: [00:52:53] Wasn’t  it.  And it talks a lot about that and the struggles in real estate and the struggles with my businesses and the struggles in my personal life, believe me, life has, has been challenging as it should be. It, it, it’s, it’s a very, it’s an inspiring book. It’s funny, on one page, I think 

[00:53:16] you’ll be, laughing and on the next page, I think you’ll be crying. So it’s, it’s definitely taking you on that rollercoaster ride. and, but. At the end of every chapter, I wanted to teach, I mean, I’m a self-help junkie.

[00:53:33] So, I’ve given a lot of helpful hints and techniques and strategies that helped me through that. But I think it’s a great inspiring book, especially what we’re going through right now. I think, I think all of us can use a little more inspiration.  That picked me up to understand that,  what, I can’t control the wins, but I absolutely can.

[00:53:55] Control my sales and I, there, there’s 

[00:53:58] nothing much we can do with what’s going on in the world right now with, with COVID and all the unrest, but what? We can focus on ourselves and we can be doing the things that we need to do to make our lives better and make it go in the direction that we want it to go.

[00:54:13] And, and I think that’s what this book will do for a lot of people. 

[00:54:16] Mike: [00:54:16] That’s just going to. If you are into sailing and I’m not totally into sailing, but I understand that that’s called tacking. We have to go into the wind sometimes just to be able to get the rest of the wind moving and when we can still move.

[00:54:27] So, the book’s release is November 12th. 

[00:54:30] Nelson Tressler: [00:54:30] November 12th. It comes out, it’s available on, anywhere you buy a book and Amazon 

[00:54:37] Mike: [00:54:37] is a noble and all those guys that will have it. 

[00:54:39] Nelson Tressler: [00:54:39] And it’s actually, you can pre-order it on Amazon. 

[00:54:43] Mike: [00:54:43] Even better. Okay. So, those links guys will be done. How do people find you?

[00:54:47] Like how do they find the program? Like, what is, is there a website or something. 

[00:54:51] Nelson Tressler: [00:54:51] Yeah, you can go to Nelsontressler.com and, that’s there, but we also have a website. I got smarter, all spelled out. you can, you can go there as well. And, I haven’t been a great social media guy. And with this new business, I’m trying to do that.

[00:55:10] I’ve kind of been anti-social media, but I definitely see the value. So, you can go to, I got smarter on, on all the socials or Nelson Trussler on all the social settings.

[00:55:20] Mike: [00:55:20] Cool, awesome. all those things, all of course be done in the, in the comments as usual guys is if you need anything, just go down to the bottom.

[00:55:27] If you want to ask any questions, on YouTube make sure you post the questions down below, we’ll forward them over to Nelson and he can answer them as he needs to. As he can, excuse me. Last question. What’s the biggest challenge you’re facing in your business right now?  

[00:55:44] Nelson Tressler: [00:55:44] What, it’s, it’s getting the word out there, in, in getting your message out there too, to people. And, I, like 

[00:55:54] I said, I’ve been in sales for, for 20 years and I know how hard it is. You, you can have the best product, you can have the best service, but if people don’t know about it, it’s not going to do them any 

[00:56:06] good, and startings.  And starting a new business, once you’ve kind of started that business and you’ve gained that success and things are going right to kind of.

[00:56:20] Start a new business. You forget all the struggles that you went through 20 years ago when you started another business. So there’s that, there’s there’s that, but,  what I, I try the one thing that I believe in life is. You get to give meaning to everything that happens to you and your life. Why on earth?

[00:56:40] Would you ever give anything a negative meaning? And I try to, I try to give a positive meaning to everything that happens to me in my 

[00:56:47] life. So, with COVID 

[00:56:49] and having to pivot on the first business.  What I think I got smarter is going to help more people faster than six months to success.

[00:56:57] So I’m just trying to give everything a positive meaning now, and just trying to help as many people as I can, live that, the best  version. 

[00:57:07] Mike: [00:57:07] Awesome. That’s and that, that in and of itself is already huge. We’ve reached, unfortunately, cause I really want this to go longer. We’ve reached the end of our time.

[00:57:20] it has been an absolute pleasure to have you on Java chat. They’ll send them, I really want to tell you I got nuggets and if y’all have been listening and you didn’t get nuggets. Rewind, listen again, there’s a ton of gold in this one, but thanks for sharing some time with us. We’ll definitely want to have you come back maybe to dig in a little bit more into goal-setting and getting into the whys and stuff like that.

[00:57:45] Cause I think a lot of people forget how to get to that point. I know there’s a process to it. It takes a little bit, so, Again, everybody. For those of you that are watching all the links will be down in the comments, all of the commentary and stuff. I like that. if you’re watching on YouTube, don’t forget to hit the subscribe button.

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[00:59:03] So stay up, stay, stay healthy and live for Nelson, Tressler and myself coffee with Mike. Chow for now. 

[00:59:13] Nelson Tressler: [00:59:13] Thank you

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